Little Books for Big Questions #2: A New Sibling On The Way


We regularly feature a book that we feel will help those important little people in our lives get their head around some of those big, mind-blowing questions and quandaries.

This month it’s a biggie… A new baby in the family. One of the biggest seismic, universe-altering experiences that can happen to a very young soon-to-be big brother or sister. They’ve been at the centre of your family solar system since they were born and now there’s this new baby who is going to come along and seemingly knock everyone out of orbit… “Will they cry all of the time? Who will build Duplo towers with me at 6:30am and WHAT IF THEY’RE CUTER THAN I AM?” It’s pretty much a minor existential crisis from the build up to the birth, the introduction of the baby and for a good few months post partum.

I gave birth to twin boys last summer. I was very aware of the impact this huge change would make on my little girl who was almost 4 at the time. I collated as many hints & tips from experienced friends with similar parenting styles and put them into action. It seemed to work… phew. Here are some of the tips which I feel have been the most effective:


Pre birth:

Include your child in every bit of baby preparation you possibly can. Choosing sleepsuits, equipment, décor, helping pack the hospital bag etc… even if you think they’ll find it quite dull they may have an unexpected interest and if they’re not bothered they’re happy that you’ve invited their opinion.

Let them know that before they themselves arrived you were just a couple.. you only became parents when they came into your life and how that’s a really special thing.

Answer as many of their questions about babies as you can… even the tricky ones (like the one about Mummy & Daddy having a special cuddle).

Talk to them about how (if you’re the mother) your body is changing and why, how big the baby is and what it is probably doing there in your tummy.

Write them a little letter for them to read while you’re away giving birth.

Introducing them to the baby:

When your first born meets the baby for the first time, try having the baby in the cot rather than in your arms. Your child will still see you as their parents not a new little family unit that they might feel they’re interrupting. You could then pick the baby up with their help so they can have a little cuddle. We also gave her a little gift placed in each of the cots as something from the twins, nothing majorly huge or expensive… She totally knew the gifts weren’t from the babies but loved that she’d have something new to play with at home with her grandparents while she waited for us to be discharged from the hospital.

At home after the birth:

Let your first born introduce the new baby to visitors.

Get your child involved with all of the baby stuff… nappies, feeding, bathing, choosing outfits etc.

Give them a little task like handing out biscuits when visitors pop round.

Allow them to have a blip… they’re bound to have a minor freak out now and then… this is HUGE for them. Even if you’re beyond knackered and have spent the night with your eyeballs rolling to the back of your head trying to stay awake, allow them the odd totally-out-of-nowhere unnecessary barny.

Try and steal away a bit of one on one time with them, the park, the shops… little pockets of time together. After all you’ll be missing that too.


This book is just a great addition to all of the above…

The New Baby: An Activity Book for Soon-to-be Big Brothers and Sisters. By Lie Dirkx, (Cicada Books)

Bold graphics and a broad spectrum of illustrations and activities, which are just perfect for the inquisitive and hesitant soon-to-be big brother or sister. Really engaging and lighthearted, this book opens up loads of opportunities for a parent to talk to their little one about so many aspects of pregnancy, birth and baby!




  1. When I was pregnant with my second child, I looked for a book that would involve my older son in the pregnancy and hopefully eliminate future sibling rivalry. Not finding one to my liking, I wrote “Making Me: The Pregnancy Activity Book for My Big Brother or Sister” (by Julie B. Carr/Motherly Way). It helps foster understanding, love, and engagement every day of Mom’s pregnancy for the 4-10 year old sibling.

    Feel free to check it out on Amazon:

    Congratulations to you!

  2. Thanks!
    That’s amazing Julie.. it looks fab. You have some very positive reviews too!!
    Do you have any more books in the pipeline?

  3. This is the perfect post for me at the moment. Brilliant advice, thank you Xxx

  4. Love the idea of writing them a letter for whilst you’re away giving birth. However I keep filling up thinking about what to write!!! Emotional wreck Xxx

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